Let us recognise the roles they have played in our lives, and for a moment let us think of them with the love we once shared.
O.Henry said, ‘No friend is an accident.’
When I look back upon my life, I see the deep truth of this statement. There have been friends who have been with me since early childhood, and whose love still strengthens me when I need it the most. There are friends who have been with me for just a few years, and I cannot imagine what life was without them. There are friends whose loyalty and integrity have taught me invaluable life lessons. There are friends who have smiled at me when behind my back they stabbed. There are friends who have raised me up, and helped me fly. There are friends who have tried hard to drag me down. There have been friends who have taken, and friends who have given. There have been friends who chose to leave, and friends I chose not to stay with.
I am sure that you can recall friends who match the friends I have described above. And just as I feel, I’m sure that both good and bad feelings come up when you recall them. The good feelings we tend with care, but for the bad feelings there is a tendency to blame the other. It is these feelings that I choose to address today.These friends are probably not in your life any more, but you carry them around in your head and in your heart by the feelings of anger, hurt, disbelief, and betrayal that come up each time you hear their name, or think of them. The truth is that these friends who we have parted from have taught us as, if not more, significant lessons than those who are still close and dear to us. The friends who have parted from us have taught us how strong we are, for we were able to move on from hurt which we thought would debilitate us. The friends who have parted from us have made us reflect about the strengths and weaknesses in our own characters, and thus opened our eyes to unknown truths that we had not seen. The friends who have parted from us have made us discover the power of healing the word ‘sorry’ possesses by their refusal to acknowledge the error of their ways. The friends who have parted from us have made us value even more those that have stayed. The friends who have parted from us have made us even more committed to truth by the hurt their betrayal and dishonesty caused us.
When there is so much that we have benefited, how can we say that even a single friendship was a mistake? No, there is no such thing as an accident in this universe. The friends came to us as dear soulmates who caused us much hurt and pain, yes, but who pushed us up the ladder of evolution by those acts and words that we considered mean, nasty, hateful, manipulative, and so on. Let us recognise the roles they have played in our lives, and for a moment let us think of them with the love we once shared. For friends that part shall always, at an unseen level, live on in each other’s heart.