What you are looking for depends upon your recurrent thoughts, beliefs and attitudes. If your recurrent thought is one of negation of self or another, then the Universe will again and again make you experience negation by not fulfilling any of your desires. If your recurrent belief is of self-honour and faith in self, then the Universe will again and again make you experience your power and your strength.


If you could change one thing in your life, what would you change?

Do not continue to read till you have your answer!

Well, now that you do have your answer, let me tell you that there is NOTHING that you can change except your thinking!

And now, another question…..

What do you consistently see and experience all around you?

Pause here and answer very honestly. Yes, if you wish, you can make a list of all that you see/experience very, very regularly.

Now don’t be very upset with what I am going to tell you.

You are only seeing what you are looking for! We only see what we are looking for!

Now go back to both your answers, and honestly assess yourself. It is easy to assess another, but equally difficult to turn that ever-judgmental eye inwards. And, yet, that is the only way to make the changes that will make your life more meaningful, more fulfilling.

Let us again read the two significant sentences.

There is nothing that you can change, except your thinking.

You only see what you are looking for.

There is something common in both these statements…You.

Does it disturb you when it’s revealed that you see corruption because you are looking for it; you see dishonesty because you are looking for it; you experience betrayal because you are looking for it; you face failure because you are looking for it? The Universe always gives you what you seek. The unfortunate thing is that we don’t really know what we seek.

We think we are seeking abundance, but what we are looking out for is a perpetuation of lack. How? Either by not being able to spend joyously, or just the reverse. Buying it because it’s out there, and for a brief moment filling the emptiness within. We think we are seeking love and acceptance, but what we are watchfully looking out for is betrayal and rejection. How?  By complete negation and submission of self, or by distancing yourself from others with the help of distrust and suspicion.


I could go on….but only you know what you are looking for, and how, and why.

The Universe gives you a little bit of help in this direction. It shows you what you are really looking for. So, you and I get the relationships we are looking for, the applause we are looking for, the kicks we are looking for, the victories we are seeking, the failures we are strongly inviting. And, no, dear friend, of course this is not a conscious ‘looking’ on your part. Continue reading “You Are What You Think”