Self-discipline does not constitute ‘doing’ anything; it is about BEING something.

“Self-discipline is an act of cultivation. It requires you to connect today’s actions to tomorrow’s results. There’s a season for sowing, a season for reaping. Self-discipline helps you know which is which.” Gary Ryan Blair


Often we have been urged to be self-disciplined in order to attain our dreams to the fullest. Though we try very hard to discipline ourselves, we often fall back into old patterns, and are unable to move into a frame of reality that would fulfil us, and unlock the fullness of our potential. This brings in despondency, which is accompanied by an unconscious belief that we lack that certain ‘something’ needed for success. This, of course, generates its own self-destructive energy of lack of belief in our abilities, further exacerbating the quandary.

At the root of this predicament lies ignorance of the true meaning of self-discipline, which is less about creating structures and more about establishing that intrinsic quality that truly defines who we are. Many balk at the word ‘self-discipline’ because unconsciously they associate it with rigid structures that restrict their freedom to do, say and think what they wish to. But, my dear friend, this is not at all what self-discipline is.

Self-discipline does not constitute ‘doing’ anything; it is about BEING something. This brings us to the first and most important step of self-discipline – Goal Setting. More often than not, our goals comprise of actions that need to be taken and objectives that need to be met in tangible, material terms that the intellectual mind can comprehend as ‘happiness’ or ‘success’. Of course such goals have their own place of importance, but they are significant only after the primary goal of self-discipline has been attained. Without this, these goals either remain unattained or are attained with so much stress that they cause more harm than good before they see the light of day.

Self-discipline lays down three criteria for the goal: the first, it must be a single goal; the second, it must remain constant for the entire length of time, and the third, but the most important criterion, the goal has to be a BEING goal and not a DOING goal or a HAVING goal. Let me explain this further, and from a very practical, down-to-earth perspective, rather than something that sounds ‘too spiritual to be real’.

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