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Musings by Ellaeenah Jadefire

Empowerment Enlightenment Enrichment

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July 2016

I Am What I Am

 Shirley Bassey in her inspired song belts out: ‘I am what I am, I am my own special creation….Life ain’t worth a damn, till you can say, “Hey, world, I am what I am!”’

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How do you measure your worth?

 

Self-worth is evident when we realise that we are a unique, beautiful, expression of the Universe. We have a valuable purpose without which this cosmos would be incomplete.

If you judge yourself by your income, your possessions, your flaws, your strengths, your relationships, you are likely to find yourself lacking, as the Universe ensures that you will always find at least one person who is richer, prettier, kinder, cleverer, luckier in love…Why? The answer is profound in its simplicity – the less you can see of your inner worth, the more will the Universe reflect the hidden for you, so that, in the reflection, you can see the value that lies within. But, sadly, we view this reflection as something ‘out there’ that is unattainable, and chase a rainbow that never seems to end in the pot of gold.

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I Am Grateful For My Problems

I am grateful for all my problems. After each one was overcome, I became stronger and more able to meet those that were still to come. I grew in all my difficulties.” — J. C. Penney

When problems loom large over the horizon, the most difficult words to speak are: “Thank you, God, for this gift.” Problems have an uncanny knack of creating vacuums that suck you in, and as you spiral downwards uncontrollably, you seem to be able to call forth energy only enough to ‘blame’. The strength required for admission of responsibility just cannot be summoned to the fore. And this ‘weakness’ on our part strengthens the ‘vacuum’ of the problem.

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Yes, I can hear you, as you say, “I know this, but cannot hold on to this knowledge when a problem faces me.” First of all, dearest, know that you are not the only one to feel this. You are not the ‘weakling’ you consider yourself to be, each time you stumble under the weight of a problem. The truth is that within each of us breathes Atlas who valiantly holds up the world, but living very close by is Achilles who is never allowed to forget his one area of weakness.

Let us learn to live with both aspects of ourselves, for how can you applaud Atlas, if you are ever absorbed in deriding Achilles? This is the very first step you have to take if you truly wish to be in gratitude for your problems, because you Know that with every problem has come your growth.

Problems leave you no option but to see the bigger picture, and it is in this expansion of vision that your redemption lies. It is with this expansion that you stop playing the martyr, the victim, the rescuer, the saviour, for the realisation dawns upon you that it is only in the experience of Inner Power and Authority that you can truly help self and others.

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Happiness

 

Happiness depends upon ourselves… Aristotle



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The happy man is not he who seems thus to others, but who seems thus to himself… Publilius Syrus

 

My friend, what is that which gives you happiness? Successful career? Fulfilling relationships? Beautiful home? Intellect? Money? Children? There are as many reasons to be happy, as there are people on earth. We seek happiness in our own unique ways, and go about trying to create those realities that we hope shall help us attain this, somewhat ephemeral, goal.

A dear friend quoted Osho a few days ago: ‘I’ll tell you a spiritual secret, be the cause and the effect will follow; but I’ll tell you an even deeper spiritual secret… be the effect and the cause will follow.’ This is the key to happiness as well. If we live our lives in ways that make it impossible to be happy, how can we ‘effect’ happiness into our lives? A pessimistic outlook, a harsh and critical eye, a complaining tone, a suspicious mind, a dissatisfied heart, these hardly constitute the ‘causes’ that attract happiness.

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Great Expectations

I am open to the guidance of synchronicity, and do not let expectations hinder my path………..Dalai Lama

Dearest Friends, if there is one hurdle in the path of our happiness, and harmony with others, it is expectations. Yes, we are human, and thus will have expectations, however hard we try otherwise. Having acknowledged this, how can we overcome this hurdle? The answer lies in self-awareness. Every expectation arises from an unfulfilled inner need. If you are able to tap into that need, you will instantly be able to understand the expectation. E.g. you may expect promptness in action/response because that makes you feel that you matter, fulfilling your inner need for recognition.grow-1417323_1280

If your reality were free of all expectations, it would simultaneously be free of disappointments and disillusionments. Our expectations cause us grief because through the course of living we have ingrained into our belief system that expectations do not get fulfilled. I remember reading this statement somewhere, “Life is so constructed that an event does not, cannot, will not, match the expectation.” I do not recollect the name of the author, but I am grateful for the insight that is portrayed through this simple sentence that talks volumes of a universal script. This becomes a ‘prophecy’ that fulfills itself again and again, thereby strengthening the belief even more. You can see what a twist this is!! Frustration leads to anger, and anger finds vent in hot words and cold distances.

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Fulfillment

Contentment is not the fulfillment of what you want, but the realisation of how much you already have.

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The only thing that will stop you from fulfilling your dreams is you…. Tom Bradley

In the lives of so many people in the world today, there is a void, an emptiness that they try to fill with money, success, relationships or food, drink, cigarettes, sex, and drugs. What causes this deep void, this pit that seems impossible to fill? Why don’t the obsessions, the addictions, the hardest efforts, result in that elusive feeling of complete fulfillment?

Often we have heard of the term ‘chasing rainbows’, but we haven’t stopped to understand what this ‘rainbow’ is. Is it social status, power, love, acceptance…? The truth is that it is all of these, and yet, none of them, for they are all only the superficial facsimiles of inner fulfillment.

It is because we do not understand the truth of what we chase, that our ‘rainbow’ constantly appears to be beyond the next mountain. We chase money, when in fact we truly seek abundance. We cannot stop buying status symbols, when what we truly yearn for is acceptance and a sense of belonging. We spin through relationships when in fact we deeply need nurturing. But, the need for abundance, acceptance, nurturing, belonging, is only a mirror of a deeper need… the need to be fulfilled. Continue reading “Fulfillment”

Feelings – A Wake-Up Call

People are afraid of themselves, of their own reality; their feelings most of all.… Jim Morrison

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We live in a world where mirrors are often the medium that perpetuate self-hate, or build fragile egos that stand shakily on the sands of vanity. They are rarely used to look at the reflection of one you love completely… Yourself. Feelings are disturbing. We are conditioned, at a cellular level, to believe that pain must be resisted because facing it directly will harm our psyche. How ,then, can we love, if we are fearful of facing our feelings?

When we learn that pain is a wake-up call, we will not try to hide from it. Feelings of disgust, anger, fear, dislike, envy, are essential steps that each of us have to take in our journey of inner growth. They draw our attention to those parts of self that have risen from the dark depths, ready and eager to be en-lightened. If we are ashamed of these feelings, we will lose this glorious opportunity, and waste precious time in trying to push them down again. This time can be well-spent to throw light on these feelings, understand their cause, and move towards assimilation in a healthy and positive manner.

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Family, And The Power of Love

Each day as I read the newspapers and watch the news channels, I say a silent prayer: ‘Thank you for familiesAs the world focuses so strongly on terrorism, hatred, bloodshed, violence, and abuse in its myriad forms, thank you, God, for giving us families upon whom we can focus our immense power of love.’

However judgmental we may be, there will be very few, indeed, who will not agree that even a murderer, a terrorist, a rapist, an abuser, has a strong force of love that springs within, for the FAMILY. There is no human so cold whose heart does not dance when the twinkling eyes and gurgling welcome of his baby welcomes him home. A mother’s embrace, a proud father’s pat on the shoulder, a sibling’s merciless and yet so, so loving jest, a partner’s silent avowal of constancy… all of these have the power that can not be wielded by the bomb, the sword, the gun.

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Expand Your Comfort Zone

 

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There are no bad people. There are only good people who have  still to find the road back home. —Ellaeenah

Dear Friend, the year 2017 is not too far away. It is a year in which we must focus less on our differences, and more on the unity of spirit that runs within each of us. It is time to give others a second chance. In the last week this has been strongly reiterated to me through two very strong experiences…death and birthing. This turning-point week has taught me how difficult it is to give another a second chance, if you or a loved one has been hurt or wronged. Your instincts of protection roadblocks this, even as the intellectual mind urges you to forgive, and let go. The importance of a second chance cannot be stated enough, for it this that makes another feel loved.

In order to remove the inner barricade, we need to expand our comfort zone. What is this comfort zone? It is an emotional limit that is established, without conscious awareness, which controls what you find acceptable and unacceptable. Anything that threatens you, at any level of your existence, is firmly placed outside the comfort zone. Beliefs, personal and social norms, attitudes and value system, habits and routines are the bricks we use to create this comfort zone. The narrower your comfort zone, the fewer are the situations ‘acceptable’ by you. The large number of persons that are kept out of the comfort zone are judged, condemned and punished, either overtly or subtly.

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Desire, and BE

 

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What do we lose by another’s good fortune? Let us celebrate with them… that should be our desire and determination’Sri Sathya Sai Baba

Desire brings meaning and purpose to your life. It helps you to devote yourself to a cause, to service, to creation. Desires have often been considered as hurdles in your spiritual path, but, dear friend, the obstacles that we face do not arise because of our desires but because of our attachments. Attachments arise out of greed, fear, insecurity or vanity; desires arise due to the presence of thought. As long as you can think, you will desire. Fighting this causes needless guilt and inner agitation. If you can choose your thoughts without the known or unknown hold of the external over them, you will be able to choose your response to your desire. You will be able to appreciate the desire because you will understand its causative thought, and thus you will be able to healthily enjoy the desire, or let it go without either regret or the pain of denial.

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